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Ann Marie Damashek, GRI, CBR, SRES, Compass Greater NY, LLCPhone: (917) 623-0624
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Making Friends in a New City

by Ann Marie Damashek, GRI, CBR, SRES 07/21/2019

Moving to and making a new home in any new city is an exciting time. You have boxes to pack, plans to make, a new job to learn, a new home to find, and new places to explore. With all the anticipation of the move, you may not have given much thought to making friends in your new city.

The usual suspects

Of course, you’ll have co-workers to befriend, but that could be a small pool from which to choose. And, if you're bringing your family with you, they'll want to make new friends too. While school-aged children will find friends in their classrooms and activities, preschoolers and stay-at-home spouses don’t always have built-in relationships. Here are some places where you might discover new friends.

Gyms

Whether you’re an avid Cross-Fitter or casual Zumba class attendee, you’ll find like-minded members at local gyms. Signing up for a class before or after work puts you in the same location as others with similar schedules. Daytime classes more likely have other parents with small children with which to bond.

Houses of worship

Local churches, mosques, synagogues, temples, and meeting houses may offer groups, classes, and organizations for you no matter where your interests lie or what schedule you have. Often, daytime gatherings offer childcare or meetings of like-minded folk focusing on a common cause or charity.

Clubs and groups

If you belong to a club in your current home city, check to see if there are branches or chapters in your new city. Ask your leadership for a letter of introduction to smooth the way into your new home’s group.Members of fraternities or sororities should check out chapters in their new city too. 

Hobbies and interests

If you have a hobby or a developing interest in learning about one, craft and hobby stores typically offer classes and workshops where you can meet people with comparable interests.

And if you’re shy?

Making new friends isn’t necessarily easy if you’re naturally introverted or shy. A couple of helpful hints:

  • Be a listener. You don't have to impress everyone you meet with your conversational skills. Just pay close attention to what they want to talk about and ask a few leading questions: "How long have you know about …?" or "Where did you first become interested in …?"
  • Smile. A ready smile attracts people to you and makes you appear friendly (which, when you’re trying to make friends, is a good thing to be).

Make friends of friends’ friends

Remember, while you may not “gel” with everyone you meet, this person might have a friend that is your new-best-friend in waiting.

About the Author
Author

Ann Marie Damashek, GRI, CBR, SRES

Ann Marie Damashek has always been a natural at helping people prepare their homes for sale. She started out with a successful business selling goods for people on eBay. "Nine times out of ten they were hiring me because they were down-sizing,” Ann Marie says. "So I decided to get my license. I said, ‘Might as well sell their house too.’” The transition was a smooth one and for nine years she’s had a thriving full-time real estate business that allows her to marry her entrepreneurial spirit with her passion for helping others. With an office in Larchmont, New York, she serves all of Lower Westchester County, with her primary market in the Sound Shore region. The majority of her business is "sphere of influence” with former clients referring her to friends and family. A gifted communicator, Ann Marie quickly builds trust and rapport with her clients by being both thoughtful and responsive; she understands that during the purchase or sale of a home, a quick response time is crucial. "I am very accessible,” Ann Marie says. "I always make time for my clients. They can call me, text me, email me up until 10 o’clock at night and I will respond. I’m available on weekends. I get back to people very promptly. I’m very customer service-oriented.” Her clients appreciate her professionalism, passion and enthusiasm and as a result her repeat and referral rate continues to grow each year. While selling real estate is serious business, Ann Marie knows that at times humor and a moment of levity can be a relief to clients. While she has a laidback and easygoing personality, she can be assertive when needed on her clients’ behalf. She loves being of service to them, and the continually changing nature of the work keeps her engaged and fulfilled. "It’s never boring,” Ann Marie enthuses. "Every day is different. That’s probably what I like most about it. But I also enjoy helping people sell or buy and educating them about the process. I love helping them achieve their goals.” This ethic of service has resulted in well-deserved recognition. Ann Marie has received the Westchester Magazine Five Star Real Estate Agent Rating four years running, in 2015 and 2016 she was the #1 agent in her office, and she’s a Zillow 5-Star Premier Agent. To keep in touch with former clients, Ann Marie sends cards to mark special occasions or reaches out via email. To market her listings, Ann Marie uses Multiple Listing Services (MLS), as well as Listingbook.com, a service that allows both agents and their clients access to MLS data. She also uses a Facebook business page and ads to boost new listings or promote upcoming open houses. "That drives a tremendous amount of traffic,” Ann Marie says. She also uses the most popular real estate websites such as Zillow and Trulia. A strong believer in giving back, Ann Marie sits on the Board of Trustees of her church and is involved in a variety of social justice projects. She’s affiliated with Furniture Sharehouse, a furniture bank for Westchester County, which collects and distributes gently used furniture free of charge to those in need. "I love it on so many levels because as a realtor, it’s helps my sellers downsize through charitable donations. I like the environmental aspect of it as well. And it helps people who truly need things.” She’s also involved in Impact 100, a women’s philanthropic giving organization. In her free time, Ann Marie enjoys gardening, traveling, and spending time with family and friends. For the future, Ann Marie wants to continue expanding her business and developing her brand, and she someday hopes to grow a strong team. But her main goal is to stay in the real estate business, helping her clients to achieve their dreams.